Why is it so hard to do the things that we know we should do? Why is it so hard to maintain a healthy diet, a regular exercise routine or to do that one thing we have been putting off for years? Masten Kipp, who is an expert on what he calls the "Fear Fallacy" has the answer. The answer lies in understanding fear, it's purpose and where it comes from. Here are a few thoughts that help us understand fear:
1) We have mistakenly mis-defined fear as the opposite of love. When In fact, fear is not the opposite of love, it is simply an emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat.
2) Fear has been one of the most important survival mechanisms for all of human existence. Fear triggers other bodily actions such as the release of cortisol and adrenaline to properly prepare us for "fight or flight."
3) When it comes to doing the things that we know we should do, our bodies naturally resist this change because of the uncertainty associated with it. The primitive part of our brain tells us that uncertainty is not safe.
4) Since there is a certain level of fear associated with all the things "We know we should do" then we can use fear as a compass to guide our actions. With the obvious exception of mortal danger, if your bodies response to a possible action is fear then it is a good sign that it is something you should do.
5) When you become fearful, always ask "What is the worst thing that can happen?" Then compare that scenario to dying with regret and decide which is worse.
Once we understand fear and are not controlled by it, we are able to move into a perpetual state of courageous action. Imagine where you would be if you made one courageous action each day for a year, or even 5 years. There is no better feeling than immediately following an action that you were previously afraid of. My hope is that you will learn to appreciate fear and use it as a guide for a journey filled with perpetual courageous action.